“If you see fraud and do not say fraud, you are a fraud.”
— Nassim Taleb
We think we’re good people. We are alright, generally speaking, it’s the others that cause all the trouble in life.
So we point the finger. It’s their fault … “She made me feel this way.”
We aren’t taught to look within and see how our choices make our lives. Yet to do this and take responsibility for all your choices is a transformative move, a powerful choice.
It’s a revolution of personal attention, and a hallmark of the inner journey, when you start realising you want to see your negative and limited beliefs and behaviours so you can change them, so you can grow, so you can be more free.
So if you’re on the path and genuinely interested in how you point the finger and avoid taking responsibility, give yourself a pat on the back. It’s rare and not comfortable, and yet the only sane choice.
In this entire world, you are the only person you can change.
However – here’s a further discovery too.
You continue to enquire within to claim the totality of what you are in control of. You are wide open to seeing how you can change.
But you also see that sometimes other people are indeed suspect – perhaps intentionally, perhaps not – but you really come into your power when you learn to tell your truth.
Always with the intention to build, not destroy, but speaking your piece is protecting your peace.
Again, it’s not comfortable. You’re worried about what they will think of you, you’re worried in case you’re wrong.
Yet it’s required. Your inner wisdom and clarity needs to be expressed, you need to play your part.
Everything in your life is your responsibility. How you react, how you feel, what you put your attention on – but also if you play your role in life to the full or not.
Go well,
Arjuna