When unexpected or unwelcome things come, what do you do? Is it a life-changing disaster, or something less dramatic?
It all depends on whether you have nurtured both aspects of your life, or just one of them. Get this right, and everything will make sense.
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Have you ever postponed and delayed something?
Like that conversation that needs to happen?
or that email you need to send?
or putting your hand up to ask that question?
or starting that new project?
or learning a new skill?
or starting that new diet/exercise regime?
With so many things you convince yourself that now isn’t the right moment, not yet. Wait and see, first … right?
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Do you ever have mornings when things don’t seem to go your way?
Everything happens wrong and so you’re on the back-foot already, frazzled, wound up and you haven’t even left the house?
This morning was just like that for me.
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Life is determined by a your attitude to it. Not by the things that happen, but your attitude to the things that happen.
This is a fundamental law of life, one that we’re really not taught, or taught that well because so few people actually truly live from a hugely positive attitude.
But it’s a choice which changes everything.
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I don’t know anyone who isn’t afraid of anything. And if they say they aren’t, then well, they are either enlightened, or lying. There is a difference, of course, between being lost in fear, and feeling fear, “but doing it anyway.”
The fact is fear is a huge and unwelcome part of many people’s lives. Mine too.
Or it used to be.
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That voice, the one that beats you down. The voice of criticism, doubt, out-and-out violence. The one that means you waste so much time revisiting and rehashing so much.
If you’re anything like me, if you could you would cut it out. Trouble is … you can’t. A big part of your mission here on earth is to come to terms with the voice.
The voice may never go away, but the great news is: It doesn’t need to.
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I’m not a big fan of the words “mentally strong.”
Mental strength or toughness can seem like brutishness, and pushing, and force, a lack of sensitivity, and other such things … or at least that’s what I tried to be when I thought of it.
Instead, I’ve come to realise – to steal from the Chinese philosophers – you want to be like water.
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Question:
“You said 100% commitment brings you things quickly and easily, right? I’m now thinking ‘I should give up sugar 100%’ but I don’t really want to live without it and am a big believer in moderation. Have I got hold of the complete wrong end of the stick? But where does doing things in moderation come in with doing everything 100%?”
And so I answered …
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98% committed to something seems pretty good. Right? Mostly committed is better than not, we think.
The fact is, you can’t be 98% committed. You can’t even be 99.999% committed. It’s like saying you’re 99.999% married, or 99.999% pregnant. You either are, or you aren’t.
Commitment works at 100%. Then everything is simple. It’s either a yes/no decision based on that.
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Death can be inspiring. You see, people at the end of their lives often – not always, but indeed often – have a lot of insight into how they would live if they had their time again.
They have a clarity and perspective about what is truly important and what is merely urgent that many of us don’t have when we’re slap bang in the middle of the managed chaos of our to-do lists.
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