I’m not a big fan of the words “mentally strong.”
Mental strength or toughness can seem like brutishness, and pushing, and force, a lack of sensitivity, and other such things … or at least that’s what I tried to be when I thought of it.
Instead, I’ve come to realise – to steal from the Chinese philosophers – you want to be like water.
I don’t like being “mentally strong” but here’s a list, anyway Read More »
Question:
“You said 100% commitment brings you things quickly and easily, right? I’m now thinking ‘I should give up sugar 100%’ but I don’t really want to live without it and am a big believer in moderation. Have I got hold of the complete wrong end of the stick? But where does doing things in moderation come in with doing everything 100%?”
And so I answered …
“I Should” versus committing to what you really want Read More »
98% committed to something seems pretty good. Right? Mostly committed is better than not, we think.
The fact is, you can’t be 98% committed. You can’t even be 99.999% committed. It’s like saying you’re 99.999% married, or 99.999% pregnant. You either are, or you aren’t.
Commitment works at 100%. Then everything is simple. It’s either a yes/no decision based on that.
Commitment and getting what you want in life without drama Read More »
Death can be inspiring. You see, people at the end of their lives often – not always, but indeed often – have a lot of insight into how they would live if they had their time again.
They have a clarity and perspective about what is truly important and what is merely urgent that many of us don’t have when we’re slap bang in the middle of the managed chaos of our to-do lists.
What you can learn from people at the end of their lives Read More »
Patience. Boring?
Perhaps … with the wrong attitude it is. But I’d say it’s more than just a virtue in life. It’s a necessity.
Why? Because things rarely unfold the way you want them to, do they? Because to become something, anything, it always takes time. Hence – unless you love being stressed and overwhelmed – the importance of patience.
The “P’s” and why patience is one of the most crucial skills you can acquire Read More »
I’m not violent you say … and yet: Do you know what one of the most violent things you can actually do is? Try to be someone that you’re not. Do you know what one of the greatest realisations that you can ever come to is? That you are enough, just as you are. The
The most violent thing you do Read More »
Who do you respect and admire?Alive or long gone, family or fictitious, neighbour or Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson … (it’s okay, guilty secrets are fine with me. Embrace them, celebrate them!) Who would you love to have as an aunty or uncle, just living around the corner so you could pop by and soak in
Two questions for living a life that makes a difference Read More »
Wouldn’t it be great to be able to choose yourself an honorary uncle or auntie? You’d be able to pop over and hang out and soak in their wisdom and life experience. Get advice, hear stories, ask questions. Learn and laugh, all at the same time. Two uncles I would have chosen would be Iggy
Iggy Pop and Anthony Bourdain on contentment vs drive Read More »
I see a business recently introduced a four day work week (for five day’s pay) across the board for all their employees. Before the six-month trial, just over 50% said they were balancing work and life demands. During the 4 day work week it jumped up to 78%. Stress dropped, commitment and productivity increased. It’s
How about a four day work week for you? Read More »
If you’re at all interested in the goings on of a tiny nation at the bottom of the world called New Zealand, like I am, you will know that the Prime Minister gave birth recently. How she runs a country and looks after a baby I know not. My hat is well and truly doffed
Perfectionism, scared of “wrong,” mistakes and failure … advice from the top Read More »