"Yes Baby! Yes!”

Last time I wrote about the immense power of saying “no” to the things that won’t take you to where you want to go. You need to say no so you can say yes.

If that makes sense you’re a genius, and we should hang out more because you clearly get me.

No is wonderful.

And yet applied too often means you live in a very small box. One of your own creation.

You need to say yes too. Yes brings surprise and newness and difference and a bit of magic as well.

Put another way, you need to say no to doubt and doing the same things in order to have more adventure.

If you’re an outdoor type you know that knife edge of staying in your comfort zone and staying safe but extending yourself.

That’s why I love the outdoors: Because it shows you the power of yes.

No to fear, yes to growth.

There is a Jim Carrey film called “Yes Man”

It’s a good one, worth a watch.

Basically there’s this guy who doesn’t say “yes” enough, who then say yes a lot and well, he learns to say yes and no.

Balance, you see.

“So clear!” I hear you say.

The coffee clearly has not kicked in.

But in your own head - you have certain patterns of thinking that do not serve you in any admirable way.

They take you down, shrink your world, and means life is a bit grey.

Your job - assuming you want more Life in your life - is to see these patterns in action.

When you really become aware of them it becomes obvious that thinking them does you no good.

So then you can say no to these thoughts and yes to other, more life enhancing ones.

Becoming the master of your own head really is that simple.

Replace down thoughts with up thoughts.

It is one of the cornerstones of the Ishayas’ Ascension meditation techniques.

Combined with the ability to directly give you more presence and focus, they are very powerful tools for rewiring your mind.

Rewiring so you can free yourself of all the negative, down, reactive patterns and habits -

Meaning no to stress, struggle, self-sabotage;

And yes to being calm as a cucumber, happy as a Tibetan goat herder, and as focussed as monkey who has just pinched your mobile phone.

Evening course next week here:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/ascensionmeditation/ Go well! Arjuna

PS.

I’m pretty sure cucumbers are super calm.

I’ve never talked to one in depth about it, but they have that aura of cool, you know?

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Did you hear about the guy who worked himself to death?

The people that I admire in this world seem to have a perfect balance. They are efficient and focussed. They get in to their work, do the things, make the decisions, have a laugh, and then they get out.

They leave it totally behind and are fully with their partners or families.

They take time to do the things that they love, that nourish their souls.

They are committed to being healthy, setting aside time to make quality food and exercise well.

But these people are super rare.

Maybe I’m too romantic in my notions, but I don’t see my ideal often. But when I do I sit up and take notice.

So many people are imbalanced. They typically push and push in one area of their lives to the detriment of everything else.

And it’s all about security, or proving something to someone, or caring too much. I know this because I’ve been through it myself.

Fear that I can’t let go of work because I need to provide. If I don’t look after my family, my retirement etc etc, who will … ?

Or, if I don’t do it, who will look after x, y or z? Muggins here will do it.

Or, I’m not in a place where I can cut back my working hours just yet. But soon I will be able to. I’ll get things in a place where they can run themselves and I can let go …

Or the old chestnut of doing it because everyone else seems to be doing it. Working so hard their eyeballs are bleeding, and after all, I can handle it.

Or, I’m a success and I’ll show the world (but through pushing so hard actually you’re beginning an obsession).

It’s a horrible little hamster wheel, but when you see it, you can get off.

I was talking about this on an Ascension meditation course the other day and they were connecting the dots.

One guy said he started to realise something was way out of balance when he sent an email at 2am and received a reply.

They were all working 16 and 18 hour days, with families and hobbies they are busy ignoring.

Maybe you can push for a few months, maybe years, but what is inevitable is that you will snap. Or your relationship will fail. Or you get so overweight it’s difficult to play with your kids.

You need balance. You can’t do anything without balance.

Making this kind of change takes courage, it takes seeing your mind and behaviours clearly.

And it means going beyond the fears of your mind.

It takes prioritising what is important to you.

This is your life and you need to decide how you want to live it.

The choice is in your hands, ok?

If you want help living a balanced and fulfilling life I know of a course that will help.

You can, and should, book on here: https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/ascensionmeditation/

Ascension meditation makes everything simpler and clearer. Honest, been doing it for a long time, and it works.

To save yourself a seat go here:

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Any questions, fire away, I would love to help.

Keep the Peace! - Arjuna