The other day I mentioned a guy called Paul Mort, who is awesome. He sent me an email about “body shaming”, and I wanted to reiterate what he said.
A way back there was an advert for a weight loss company and it created such a big outcry. Apparently there is another one.
I’m not interested in going into the details simply because they don’t matter.
What I want to talk about is that people got offended over an image, and a message.
I do get it - I do get the power of the media to create an environment where you start to see the world in a certain way.
I realise there are certain pressures in regard to well, everything.
There are so many images and ideals of perfection, and you will always fall short.
Now I’m not saying don’t try and create change in the world.
Please don’t get me wrong - this is not what I want to talk about.
I want to talk about your own reactions to the things of the world.
If you’re getting sucked in and find you’re having your buttons pushed regularly by adverts or events or what he said/she said…
…even if it is the most noble thing…
…even if you think you are morally in the right…
If you’re losing your cool…
and blaming someone else for it…
There is definitely something there for you, in your own choices.
You see, it’s like this:
In order to stop the hurts as you walk across the world you can:
Attempt to carpet the whole thing…
…or you can take a small piece of padding and secure it to your own feet.
The most efficient way of dealing with stuff you don’t like is to take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings and actions.
If you’re getting triggered by stuff, surely the fastest way to get around that is to work out how not to be triggered by it…?
There lies freedom.
You can try and change the world all you like, but if you don’t change yourself you will just keep hitting things that trigger you.
You’ll always hit up against something that will offend or bewitch or ensnare you.
They will find you!
If you see that trigger point and are able to make another choice it won’t matter what people say, what the adverts say, what happened, you are free from that knee jerk reaction, free of that chain.
You are able to be self-contained - in you. Needing nothing. Approval or condemnation? Uh-huh, thanks.
And in that you will have such a different (and more powerful!) leverage over the things you do want to change.
Because it’s not personal anymore.
Interesting huh?
Start with yourself, and then work outwards.
Try it out.
The fastest and easiest way I know of changing reaction into free action is meditation.
The regular practice of an effective technique such as Ascension meditation brings great rewards.
And it just so happens I have some personal coaching spots opening up. If you want one: https://arjunaishaya.wufoo.com/forms/z1lypp5w0gshcsx/
Have a great day, a free day. - Arjuna
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