Your Foundation And Why It Matters More Than Anything

You. Yes - you!

This is important you understand this.

That is ONLY if you want to:

Live a great life as an awesome parent, partner, friend and team mate, achieve your goals, have huge adventures, and indulge in a lot of fun while getting total fulfilment from all of it … that is.

If you don't care for ANY of that?

Well ... <shrugs> ... too bad for you.

You - your life - what you do, how you think about it and how much you enjoy it:

Your levels of calm, clarity and happiness,

AND

Your levels of stress, confusion and struggle …

The resulting effectiveness in, and enjoyment of, your life -

All depend on your inner foundation.

If you have shaky foundations, everything you do will be shaky and less then fulfilling.

If you have solid foundations, everything you do will be quality and have an element of fun to it.

This foundation is hard to describe in words -

But I’ll bet you good money you know exactly when you’re far away from it.

For me being away was like being in a pit.

A pit of such magnitude that it still gives me motivation not to return there.

Perhaps you know what I’m talking about?

Now:

Given the habits of your mind you need a practice to return to solid foundations.

That is where Ishayas’ Ascension mediation comes in.

Fast, enjoyable, powerful tools that enable you to be the best version of yourself.

All good so far.

You get back on track - and what do soooo many people do just because they don’t understand?

“Well, I’m out of the hole - let’s get going!”

They get busier and busier chasing their goals and their to do lists -

They stop practicing -

Their foundation starts to crumble,

Busy-ness turns to flapping and less effectiveness and more and more stress and overwhelm.

What happened?

They didn’t make the nurturing of their foundation a priority.

It was important when you were suffering, now life is pretty good?

You forget.

You forget what gave you that sense of calm, of clarity, of capability, of “I can handle ALL of this”.

You forget and so it starts to slip away …

Hence the curse of the pretty good life.

Sometimes you have to REALLY suffer to wake up and see what causes what.

Now: You don’t NEED to suffer - especially since I’m telling you now.

But you need to do something about it.

To clarify:

Meditation

- and the life you live from what it gives you -

Is not an either/or thing.

So many people think “meditation? I’ll have to give up my goals and dreams”

Nope!

Actually: ONLY living for your goals and dreams?

That is an either/or.

Because you give up a foundation in effectiveness and enjoyment.

Because you neglect your core, your centre, your foundation.

You get stressed and overwhelmed and things start to crack and fall apart …

Your work, your relationship, your health, your sense of humour.

OK?

Now you know - get cracking. Don't waste another moment.

Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

Ooh, I was so busy being Mr Motivator that I forgot.

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First Comes “Snap!” And Then Comes Regret

You ever fire off and spit something out at your good lady or gentleman or your kids - Because you saw red and then just let rip?

And then you totally regret it, oooh, about a second after it comes out of your mouth?

Yup, uhuh, for sure.

Snapping in haste and then regretting at your leisure.

I’ve done it, a lot.

I once did it to a very cool cat, a very trusting, affectionate guy.

I was doing yoga and he had his tail all in my face, all because I left the door open.

Instead of picking him up and putting him out what did I do?

I bit his tail. Pretty hard actually.

I regretted it straight away -

He was never the same with me. In fact he hid for the next couple of days.

I was so sorry, but I could never make it better, and all because I got pissed and took the short way.

Such is life and it’s lessons, huh?

Emotional reaction comes quick.

It comes from the part of your brain that is so much faster than your rational, long term thinking brain.

And for so many people, you don’t have the space to engage that long term brain because you are exhausted.

You probably don’t realise how exhausted you are. Science says statistically speaking, you aren't.

Especially if you have kids, alongside having to work, and wanting to do all the other stuff too.

Being triggered and emotions and snapping all come fast, seemingly without choice -

That brain is so much faster.

Good news though -

This brain can be managed, it can be re-programmed.

Exhaustion can also be relieved - even if you have a frantic life.

If you are interested in living a life where you don’t regret your words and actions,

Where you are proud of the way you respond and handle difficult situations,

Have a means of quickly recharging your batteries,

Of getting instant clarity, perspective and space in your head,

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Go well! Arjuna

PS. Questions?

Let me have them - just hit reply.

PPS.

If you do find yourself snapping - go easy on yourself, OK?

Apologise, try and make it better, but forgive yourself too.

You can get better at this stuff.

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Full Enjoyment Of Each And Every Moment

It’s the purpose of life - Isn't it?

To enjoy the sucker.

All the things humans do, we do so we can enjoy it.

Sure - sometimes that enjoyment comes from creating something, from the sense of achievement and pride that follows.

The trouble is that’s where it all goes wrong.

People forget that not only enjoyment is the END result of setting a goal and going and getting it …

And in the well earned rest that comes from a hard days work …

But it can - and needs to - be part of the process as well.

Otherwise you get in a rat race of only enjoying when you get or finish something.

Then you start to believe that ONLY getting and finishing things brings enjoyment.

Which brings stress when things don’t go according to plan,

And distraction and loss of this moment when you are focussed on future enjoyment.

(or avoiding future lack of enjoyment - i.e. suffering)

i.e. Thinking far too much about stuff that is not in front of you.

Do you see that?

So the answer to all of this is:

Enjoy. Each. And. Every. Moment.

Fully.

You only get one life - one shot - so don’t flitter it away by thinking about stuff.

Ask yourself:

How can I get the most enjoyment out of this moment?

When you realise you're not enjoying, or at least content?

A good sign indeed that you've gone astray.

It’s not about throwing away your responsibilities or your goals and plans -

No, no, no.

It’s about having a different attitude to all of them.

Maximum enjoyment of each and every moment is your way forward.

It is essential to freeing yourself of the wheel of achieving and getting and stressing about it all.

Alright?

Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

Just so you know:

Fun isn’t the absence of hard work, but the full enjoyment of it.

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Worry And Other Gateway Drugs

Do you know that theory of drug misuse - That states drugs like marijuana are a gateway to other harder drugs?

So you smoke marijuana and end up selling yourself on the street for your next hit of crack?

It’s a dodgy theory (at best) for MOST people,

But - here something I know for sure:

Worry IS a definite gateway drug.

A slippery slope where you indulge a little and can easily end up prostituting yourself to the harder mental habits of panic and anxiety and OCD.

I’ve been there.

I used to worry about my front door being locked (true).

So I'd get halfway down the street and would go back to check it.

But then I’d worry that I didn’t lock it properly.

So I’d unlock and relock.

“But maybe something went wrong that last time?”

So I’d check again, and relock again.

And before you know it I’d develop this nearly full blown habit of checking and locking and unlocking and reloading -

Time and time and time again.

All because of worry.

It started to infect other things and really fill up my time: light switches, the oven, my car …

It was making me crazy.

Worry is a creepy little thought pattern -

Simply because it SEEMS useful.

Yet - worry rarely is.

Someone once said: Only worry if it’s useful.

If you can do something now - do it. If you can’t? You have to just leave it.

But then -

It SEEMS useful to check and recheck that the front door is safe.

It SEEMS useful to think and rethink about that big meeting tomorrow.

It SEEMS useful to worry and re-worry about the kids and what’s happening with them.

It SEEMS useful to obsess over so many things that are uncertain,

(all while you’re trying to get to sleep - of course)

Because it feels USEFUL. It feels like you are DOING something.

But for what sacrifice of quality of life??

It’s so ironic.

It was my pursuit for security that left me more paranoid and insecure than ever before.

Worry is a slippery little character.

Indulge in it a little and like a child it will grow.

Buddha said that.

Or maybe he said that about anger, I can’t remember -

But hey! It works both ways.

It’s not just the sleeplessness and the angst and the paranoia and panic that comes from overindulging in worry …

It’s the loss of being present to that which is going on right in front of you that’s worst.

You miss out on life itself.

Being distracted from your kids, your partner, your buddies around the coffee machine …

Life slipping by.

Worry is a gateway drug.

Be careful with it.

In fact, just don’t do it … alright?

Keep the Peace,

Arjuna

PS.

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Cause And Direct Effect

Let’s talk chicken and egg. What came first?

What caused what?

Cause and effect -

Or karma in some places,

is a wonderful thing to get clear on.

Because then you can see where you have choice and where you don’t.

Life is ALL about choice.

And getting truly FREE choice - 

Removed from all your self-imposed limitations

Of bad habits,

Dodgy internal programming,

And snappy, reactive, trigger based emotional responses,

Is what the Ishayas’ Ascension is all about.

(and what other meditations SHOULD be about but often fail to provide an effective means to do that)

Ooh - was that a little … bitchy?

Probably. I know I’m biased, I am.

But I know what I like, and I like what I know.

Maybe I'm just a bit grumpy this morning.

(Do you know what? -

"Standard” meditation is so much harder to teach than Ascension meditation? Super simple, Ascension takes the person by the hand and directly points them where they need to go. Which makes it quickly obvious for the person practicing. Which is great for everyone!)

Anyhoo - got a little distracted there:

Ascension meditation is about wiping your slate clean so you can put whatever you want on it.

Choice -

What causes ongoing suffering?

An event?

Or your reaction to it?

An event - such as stepping on your kids Lego, right up to being diagnosed with cancer (let’s say for dramatic effect)

The event may be painful.

It may cause short term shock and physical pain.

BUT …

The long term suffering comes from your reaction to it.

—-> The ongoing processing and thinking and chewing over it.

Like a scab you keep picking, it never heals and just gets full of pus and scar.

Yuck.

People think events cause suffering.

Thus they are controlled by these external, uncontrollable events, which trigger a response in them.

Like a monkey on a chain, being pulled this way and that.

But if you see this within yourself,

You can start to unchain yourself from the effect of painful events,

Gain control of what you can control,

And therefore avoiding suffering.

Being free from suffering?

Imagine that …

You may still not like the event -

No one likes being told they have cancer.

No one likes standing on Lego in the dark.

but it doesn’t cause continual mental and emotional … (and from that physical - because the body follows the mind) … suffering.

Life can be tough.

But you make it absurdly tougher because of your habits of choice.

Reclaim a better, easier, less dramatic, more fun way of living and responding and choosing!

What do you have to do to have a life where you are free from suffering?

Go here:

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Arjuna

PS.

Just wanted to say hello and thanks for reading this far.

Good on you!

Let me know if there's ever anything I can do for you.

True! Just send me a msg.

Kodak Courage

I went kayaking this weekend. (I thought the house and pregnant Sumati were all in good order for a few hours or so)

Lovely stuff it was.

A great group, a well oiled machine so far, we came around the corner to the main event.

The big scary rapid.

The large Kahuna.

The one the guidebook talks about and the one everyone tells stories about in the pub afterwards …

And not only did we have a large rambling party sitting eating their lunch,

Oh no,

But a gaggle of amateur photographers on a course.

What they were doing way out there who knows,

But their eyes lit up when they saw us.

We used to call it “Kodak Courage” -

That phenomena whenever there is a camera someone of lesser ability will attempt something harder,

That extra boost you get -

All for the photographic glory.

It works the other way too -

When you have a crowd,

People start to fall apart.

An interesting dynamic today was watching a team that had been styling down the river, fall into the same pattern.

Some did great,

Some did awful,

Some should have walked  - but they lived, and got their photo taken.

---> Self-induced pressure.

It messes with your mind and your skills.

How often has a rugby player kicked a ball over for a conversion in practice?

Come match day with a crowd and the result on their shoulders?

It’s much much harder.

You know this.

And it’s not just about the physical sporting realm.

It happens everywhere.

It's any skill, any decision making, any reaction.

Your mindset affects everything:

Your abilities at work, at home and at play,

And most importantly, your ability to enjoy yourself.

A crucial game is the mind game -

To every aspect of life.

For a solid, and solid foundation in mental fortitude and fitness

(I like the word “Resilience”)

And just plain happiness ...

I strongly believe everyone should have some kind of mental health / "fitness" regime.

You don’t get better at playing the guitar by accident.

You don’t get stronger by wishing it.

You don’t learn any skill or become anything different by doing nothing.

You do the work and get the results.

A regime, a practice, a thing you do to make you the master of your mind …

Is the greatest thing you can do for every part of your life.

Go here and I can help you with one that is super simple and extraordinarily powerful:

You won’t regret it:

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PS.

I woke up sore from me adventures in me kayak.

It’s been too long, what with packing and shifting and lack of rain and what not.

And it was so worth every single ache and tired muscle …

Good times are worth it!

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Trust What You Know - You Already Know

Last week I was talking about challenges. It’s interesting because you know the habits and programmes and challenges that face you.

And many of you also already know, because you told me -

You kind of already know how to get around these challenges.

You know a lot -

It's just that sometimes it takes someone else to tease it out of you.

And also -

Quite often life turns into a little bit of survival mode,

Just getting through the day - heading for the weekend.

Rare is it that we take time to really sit back and get clear on the important stuff.

On where we want to go and how.

Taking time to rest and see and be clear - getting an overview - is so valuable.

Without it you turn into a little rodent on a wheel.

Round and around and around you go.

You may know I’m going to say this -

But my Ishayas’ Ascension meditation practice gives this to me just in terms of a mini-break during the day.

A complete physical and mental rest which means I reset.

Perspective is regained -

Just through resting, disconnecting for a moment or two.

It is a luxury to some, to be able to take even 10 minutes.

But all because they don't realise how necessary it is to stop and get perspective.

They think - get jobs done then rest.

It never happens.

Does it?

You go in smaller and smaller circles.

From that, if you’re smart, and you ARE because you’re reading this -

You might realise the benefit of stopping and getting such an overview.

Because you already know what to do, what you WANT to do, and how to do it.

It’s just that it always gets pushed back, time and time again, for the hustle and bustle of doing stuff.

Carve out the time - you need it.

To help with this I think you should learn and practice Ascension meditation.

It is super simple -

And brings great clarity and perspective.

It doesn't take away your problems - it makes them easier to deal with.

Opt in here and I'll give you everything you need to know,

Starting with a free super simple Quick Start guide to meditation:

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Arjuna

PS.

Your intuition often tells you what is right for you in a particular moment.

It just gets over run, doesn’t it?

Another valuable reason to stop and see and rest and gain some space -

So you trust what you know.

An incredible gift.

PPS.

Next Ishayas’ Ascension meditation course date is set -

12-14 May (starts 7pm Friday)

Note the date down in the diary,

Email me if you want a place.

Bookings will open as soon as I organise myself free of some boxes …

soon!

Everyday Things

What do you do every day? I imagine sleep is one of them.

Eating too, perhaps - unless you’re one of these fasting types (which is ALL the rage at the moment)?

What else?

Clean your teeth?

Errmmm … maybe!

There’s not a lot of things that you do every single day is there?

I saw a quote which brought some perspective - once again - for me:

____________ “Go 3 days without your favourite thing. Then go 3 days without sleep. It turns out sleep is actually your favourite thing.” Joel Comm ____________

For me the last few days have been spent in a whirlwind of shifting -

Taking items from one place to another.

All wanting to be in the house and set up so at least I know where my fresh underwear is.

Because … well … because the baby.

It’s all about the baby and getting ready for the wee fella to arrive.

There hasn’t been a lot of time to close my eyes and Ascend.

The local river has been going nuts and I haven’t even been down there for a little kayak.

^^^ That’s how seriously I’m taking my responsibilities as a good husband.

(Loud cheer in the background)

But yesterday I got a little more time to close my eyes to meditate …

Beyond a few seconds as my head hit the pillow last thing at night.

(or when I bounce awake in the early hours as Sumati with pregnant belly attempts the bed roll / full body bounce from one side to the other).

And the level of physical rest alone was spectacular.

Like dropping into a hot bath of my own being.

(If that makes sense??)

It showed me how there are my favourite things, like kayaking.

And then there are the things that I do every single day because I NEED to.

I need to clean my teeth because I dislike furry fangs quite a lot actually.

I need to regularly go to sleep well before 11pm because it means I operate better come the next day.

I need to close my eyes and do my Ishayas’ Ascension meditation because it recharges my battery.

It releases any niggles, any grumpiness, any of that stuff just like lifting the bath plug lets all that bath water flow down the drain.

So that is all really -

What are your favourite things?

If you want to make Ascension meditation one of them, head this way and I can help you out.

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Or perhaps you have learnt but you’re not sure why you just don’t practice, simple and effortless as it is.

I can help you out too!

Keep the peace out there, ok? Arjuna - PS.

How come everyday things are the things - like sleep and like eating and like brushing the teeth that are “everyday”?

The things that are most important are the things we take for granted, aren’t they?

And only put in perspective when we go three days without them …

Everyday schmevery day, I say!

Do You Hate Mistakes Too?

I don’t know about you but I’ve made some mistakes. The trouble with mistakes is not in the making of them, but the harshness and criticism that goes along with them.

The head is a vicious little bugger …

If you excuse the term,

But I think it’s a suitable one as your mind can be so incredibly violent.

Trouble is - you never learn anything if you don’t make mistakes.

Right?

But if you listened to your head you wouldn’t ever do anything to put yourself in a place where you would learn anything.

Make sense?

It’s not fear of failure - to be more precise it’s fear of other people witnessing your failure.

I can fail in private all I like and it doesn’t matter -

It’s when you step up and try something and fail in public,

That’s when the mind wants you to cease and desist and “what were you thinking anyway?”

If you listened to your head you would stay the same, forever.

That’s ok for some, and I FULLY understand why -

But I think it’s not for you because you’re reading this,

And you want more from life than staying the same.

The rewards of managing the brutality of your own thoughts are huge.

I think that’s pretty obvious.

One side effect that is relatively unknown though -

Is that you become more understanding and less judgemental of others.

You get nicer to yourself and more forgiving and patient and knowing of how you tick -

And it automatically follows.

You become a better parent, leader, teacher, mentor, friend to any one.

Because you’re living it.

You’re IN it.

I can’t recommend learning and practicing meditation enough.

It truly is a life saver -

And means you can do the things you want to do while managing the self-sabotage as it tries to come.

The Ishayas’ Ascension meditation in particular is easy and simple and powerful, and enjoyable to practice as well.

Learn it and jump in: practice it and see how far it’ll take you.

Interested in more?

Go here and we'll get you started with a free guide to meditation.

Simple, powerful, easy to follow:

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Go well! Arjuna

PS.

Mistakes are essential things.

Unpleasant to the ego -

But pleasant when you get used to being uncomfortable in that.

A small trade off - a slight squeeze, but one that boosts you forward.

If you’re watching and interested, that is ...

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A Space Launch Sequence Would Be Simpler

In the new house with the plumber - He’s trying to instruct me in the ways of programming the thermostat.

But it’s so complicated he doesn’t know either.

Why is something like heat made so complicated?

Of course there is no manual supplied.

We do a google search and come up with the manual,

And it’s a nightmare.

Need a degree in engineering just to figure it out.

All I want is a simple switch, with a simple manual.

A “Hot Or Not” switch would be the best …

Remember that website from back in the day?

(I only needed 30 seconds to know that was the last thing I wanted in my life).

Alright - so back to heating.

I know I’m getting to the age when technology starts to out strip my intellect.

My dad always got me as a 13 year old to programme the video tape machine.

But really, learning how to set the temperature on these thermostats is harder than programming a space shuttle launch sequence.

(I am guessing - I haven’t actually done that. But you get my analogy).

The thing is it’s exactly the same with meditation.

It has become soooo complicated.

With over the top techniques and manuals and books and gurus and belief systems and apps and brain wave measuring devices,

That it’s lost it’s simplicity.

You come along just wanting some peace,

A clearer state of mind,

A way of taking things less seriously,

And being less reactive and losing some bad habits …

And it’s difficult to know where to begin.

I got you.

My job is to make it all so simple for you.

I strip it all back to the essentials that you need to know and do so you’ll actually stand a chance of knowing and doing them.

What if you do know what to do but you realise you’re just not doing it?

I can help with that too.

Been there, done that, so I can hand you a way out.

Go here and I'll show you just how simple we can make it:

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Arjuna - PS

The truth is the more complicated a meditation system gets, the further away you travel from what you actually need.

The return to your true nature is supremely simple.

If it’s not simple, it’s not true.

OK?

We Need To Talk (About Us)

I know it’s Valentine’s Day, and I’m sorry about this. I really, really am.

This is probably the most difficult email I’ve ever had to write.

But there’s something I need to tell you.

And it’s probably going to upset you.

I think …

Sigh …

I think we should take a break.

Things between us?

They just don’t feel right at the moment.

I mean, I really try to make things work …

Really I do.

I send you an email, and tell you my feelings just about every day.

I try and be entertaining and amusing, and show you things that educate and inform you.

But in return?

I get nothing.

Silence …

You just seem really … distant.

And if you’re “just not that into me”?

I’d rather you come straight out and say it.

I understand if that's too difficult -

There is an easier way.

Just go to the bottom of this email …

And click on the unsubscribe link.

If you do that?

You’ll never hear from me again.

Goodbye.

And thanks for the memories.

I don't regret a moment, really I don't.

Arjuna -

PS.

Wait!

Don’t go just yet -

There’s more …

When we first got together …

We had so much potential.

You were supposed to get my free Quick Start Guide To Meditation,

I was supposed to make your every moment filled with calm, focus and aliveness,

Making your mindset bullet proof,

Making you feel better than any man has ever made you feel.

Together?

We could have been so happy.

I guess what I’m trying to say is …

It’s not too late.

If there’s any chance that we can still make this work?

I want you to tell me.

I want you to tell me now …

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Before someone else comes along to take your place.

And The Results Are In!

From your emails telling me about your biggest challenges, the results are in. And thank you for those - they really help me help you -

So:

Self-sabotage.

Procrastination.

Bad habits you can't seem to shift.

Triggers, knowing what triggers you but still reacting nonetheless.

Feeling like you don't make enough quality time for your family, for doing the stuff you love to do.

Not getting work/life balance.

Stress, worry and anxiety.

That whiny voice inside giving you all the reasons why you can’t and so you shouldn’t and "what’s the point anyway?"

That harsh inner critic that is constantly on the whip telling you how wrong you are.

All in all ^^^ an excellent place to start.

From what you are saying it's obvious to you that your greatest opponent lies within.

Which is a wonderful state to be in because it makes dealing with your challenges so much easier.

If you said it your biggest challenges came from outside of you then that's tough.

Changing others is HARD work.

Changing yourself - if you know the right ways - is so much simpler.

It's the inner game that dictates how you live.

How much calm, focus, happiness and fulfilment you experience.

Or how much stress, anxiety, distraction, confusion and “Is this all life has to offer me??” you have.

And it is a game -

Or at least you can come to see it as a game.

Because that makes it all a bit easier.

If you’re willing to face up and really examine your opponent (and that is the hard part) -

It’ll make this game all the more simpler.

Because when you honestly look you’ll realise there is very little you don’t know about them.

They’re in your head all day long - and they haven’t changed significantly all these years you’ve been on the planet.

Knowing the opponent is an awesome idea -

Because then you can EXPECT the voice, you can EXPECT the obstacles that they’ll throw up.

Expecting what the opponent will say and do is half the battle - ignoring that voice then becomes extremely simple.

Instead of doing battle - you shift your attention to other things, the right things.

And that is where the inner game is won.

From that you get peace, a sense of purpose, the ability to focus on whatever you want and ignore all distractions and worries, life gets easier and so much more fun.

Just so you know - it's not about killing your opponent.

You don't need them to shut up or even go away.

You just need to learn to shift your attention and they dry up through lack of nourishment.

They're only alive because you - unconsciously - feed them.

How about that?!

You want to do something about it?

You want to master this inner game - and therefore have the best foundation for everything else you do?

If I were you, I would sign up here without delay:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well! Arjuna - PS. It is the only game in town.

And a game best played with a smile in your heart and a tune on your lips.

Keep it simple, okay?

Understanding How Your Brain Works To Beat Bad Habits

Habits. Bad habits keep being mentioned as one of your number one challenges.

Stuff you do that you don’t like doing.

You know you’re doing them - you just don’t know how to stop.

Frustrating, isn't it?

Let me help a little.

Understand this about your brain:

You have a brain centre that is all about ease and short term reward.

You also have a centre that is in control of short term sacrifice for long term reward.

Now - I’m sure you realise all habits have momentum.

It takes time and persistent effort to overcome, to change.

You need the right motivation too - knowing why you’re doing something.

Now - The number one killer of all changing habits is stress and tiredness.

It’s a vicious cycle.

The more tired you are, the more likely you are to be stressed, which leads to more and more exhaustion.

When you get tired it’s easier to think with the short term “gimme gimme” brain.

The blood flow actually moves away from the long term brain.

(It shrinks in size too if you stay exhausted).

Instead of staying with the plan which will involve a sacrifice  - you give in and eat, drink, sit on the couch and do nothing, stay up way late flicking through Netflix or Facebook …

Your plan falls apart, you’ve failed again.

Less and less motivation because “nothing works”.

So:

Guess what helps not only making you less stressed and less tired -

(and you probably aren’t aware of how tired you actually are)

But also activate the long term brain more and more?

Meditation.

Science that is ^^^

Any habit change plan should be based on meditation.

It gives you the foundation to make any change way easier.

With a smile on your face even.

Head here and let me help you: https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Go well! Arjuna

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PS.

Last chance to let me know what your biggest challenges are in terms of your levels of calm, focus and happiness …

As well as getting what you want from life …

Let me know, I really appreciate your answers.

Just email me at:

arjuna(at)arjunaishaya.com

Thank you!

Taking Out The Trash!

Trash?! How American of me. But it was the only way I could get a little alliteration in there. I love alliteration.

OK - so I’m moving house in the weekend -

Boxes are everywhere.

“Precious” items coming out of cupboards and being discarded as we actually haven’t been in that cupboard for years.

It’s all a bit ruthless - getting rid of the crud, the junk, the stuff that we just don’t use.

But I love it.

I love having a clear out because the less junk you have the more (obviously) external clarity you have.

It gives you a sense of lightness and possibility and freedom, just in your living space - but also in your mind.

Somehow you also get more inner clarity too.

I love that.

It’s the same when I had a PC computer.

Degragging that beast gave me great pleasure.

Clearing up, putting all the mess away in appropriate places,

It made my machine work so much better.

Loved that also.

It feels so good.

Clearing up is the same with you and your head -

The Ishayas’ Ascension meditation does what you need in terms of a spring clean - but every day!

And it's enjoyable too.

Done every day it gives you clarity and focus and a greater sense of purpose than ever before.

It sorts out your thoughts and gives you that head space -

So you can calmly go about your day and do the things you want to do.

With perspective, and not the mad rush of fighting fires everywhere, getting stressed, getting anxious.

Not reacting, not getting triggered, grumpy and absent minded, but clear!

Clear and happy so you can make the choices you'd like to make instead of jumping to the ones you don't want to make.

All for a much more productive and enjoyable life.

Interested?

If I were you, I would go here without delay. We'll get you started:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Take it easy! Arjuna

PS.

What do you find hard work in life?

What are your greatest challenges?

If you would, hit reply and let me know -

Then I can help you so much more.

Keep them coming - and thank you!

Thanks … And About Bad Habits

I've been asking people to write in. I want you to tell me what your biggest challenges are in regard to your levels of calm, focus and happiness, and being the best version of yourself.

Why?

It helps me to help you, so much.

Thank you for those who have - I know it takes some gonads to declare this stuff, but I really appreciate it.

And -

If YOU know what the biggest obstacles are in your life you can make a plan to overcome them.

One clear thing that is coming through being a challenge is habits -

Bad habits that mean you don’t do the things you really want to do

Or that mean your relationships aren’t as good as they could be

(simply because you annoy the crap out of your partner when you do these things)

Some of these habits are small, tiny things that lead to small tiny annoyances.

But some are big things that mean your partner perhaps is seriously wondering if you are at all interested in changing for them.

They think you won’t change and therefore they’ve either given up or worse …

May even be looking elsewhere.

It can happen without you even realising.

“Everything is fine” you think - and then: BOOM.

They drop THAT conversation on you and your world seriously gets shaken.

That’s what we don’t realise -

Partially because you don’t communicate with them on this kind of level regularly enough -

Partially because the focus can be about just getting through the day -

It means you don't step back and look at “how can I do some small things to really make my life better?”

Because if you had the above focus then one of the things you would be doing is talking a lot with your partner about how you can give more to them.

Habits are hard to change without motivation to do so.

The best motivation sometimes comes from some one else.

You really get off your arse if you realise how much you’re making your loved ones lives much harder work.

So find your motivation.

Talk this stuff over with your lady or your gentleman …

Find out what they want

See what obstacles within yourself there are to giving them that …

And make a plan together to overcome these obstacles.

Carry out the plan. Keep communicating, tweak plan if necessary, enjoy the rewards.

Rewards?

More lovin' and passion, more aliveness, more excitement. Being part of a team. Connection. More understanding and less stress, less arguments. Fun. Not just sleep walking through life.

Those kind of rewards.

The greatest foundation for seeing this stuff with clarity is Ascension meditation.

Clarity and perspective are wonderful things.

Go here and I’ll help you with all this, and more:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

Arjuna -

PS.

If you haven't, do write in and tell me what challenges you’re facing.

It means I can help you so much more, and I’ll reply to you for sure.

arjuna(at)arjunaishaya.com is the address

Thank you!

Do Dolphins Make You Angry Too?

Sumati was given this CD with a guided meditation to help with her upcoming labour … And it could well be the most annoying thing I have ever heard.

I’m not the target market for sure,

But as Sumati is a pregnant mum AND is scoffing big time too,

I’m not surprised meditation has a bad name when this stuff is out there.

One listen and you just want to burn something,

Not relax and be calm.

There are some good ideas, but:

The women’s voice has that “ideal” soft, supposedly peaceful, calming drone …

She talks about some things seriously disconnected from reality …

There is the sound of a wave crashing on a beach with pan pipes (urk) tootling away there too.

OH - And now the dolphins have come in

AHHHHHHH! Make it stop!

Sumati has it on at the moment and it’s awful.

Hahah - I was talking about triggers the other day wasn’t I?

Irritation is apparently a choice according to me.

Yet this thing remains a pet peeve of mine about the meditation “industry”.

I’ve met teachers who talk one way when discussing their day to day affairs,

Yet when they’re on duty their voice changes to something I suppose they believe is more “spiritual” or something.

Why?

Why not just deliver the facts of meditation and of life, as they are??

Why not help people without being silly about it?

Here’s the thing I have discovered:

You don’t need to change a thing about you.

You are you are you.

Meditation should be an extremely practical tool so you can become MORE you.

The biggest problem you have is that underneath it all you believe that you need to change in some way.

You don’t.

Once you see your patterns you may WANT to change - but that is far different from feeling like you SHOULD change.

You certainly don’t need to change to get calm, focussed and happier.

You just need to stop, regularly ...

Ignoring certain thought patterns is useful too.

But it is a simple matter of learning to direct your awareness.

Learning to bring it to the heart of the matter (which I can show you quicker than I can tell you), is incredibly restful and revitalising and means you can have an extremely effective and enjoyable life.

You need no pan pipes or “soothing” voices.

You don’t need an app - great places to start yes, but like trainer wheels on a bike.

They gotta come off some time.

You don’t need to be a vegetarian,

Or start speaking like some “guru”,

Or stop enjoying the rugby,

Or do anything you don’t want to do.

Be willing to grow and be educated, but trust what you know …

Alright?

To get the simple, direct, and way more powerful way, head this way and I’ll show you:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well - and be seeing you Arjuna

PS.

If you haven’t told me what your biggest challenge you're facing with your attitude / mindset and levels of calm, focus and fulfilment right now

Then do …

Just hit reply and tell me.

I really want to know and it’ll help me help you enormously.

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Not The Joy Of Sex, No

Recently I wrote a blog about the joy of triggers, Not the Joy of Sex, no.

My parents had that book on their bookshelf when I was a young fella.

I must say I learnt A LOT from that classic 70s manual.

Then one day it just disappeared.

Shame that -

On a few different levels.

Anyway - back on track:

The Joy of Triggers

When you realise your own happiness CAN become a choice,

A choice YOU make despite the circumstances …

So the foundation of a full rich happy life becomes not so much about the WHAT

(ie. the circumstances and the situations)

But the HOW …

(ie. your response to these circumstances)

THEN anything that shows you that you are choosing to suffer becomes of great interest

eg. your reactions, your blindspots, your inner chimp raging -

It is choosing to be aware in challenging situations and not fall back into unconsciousness.

All so you can stop making that particular choice,

And therefore get better results in your life.

Hence: the Joy Of Being Triggered.

(Not masochistic, no, not at all.)

NOW -

It is a big bold step to take full responsibility for your own happiness.

I get that. It’s a bit scary.

It's actually easier to blame something or someone else.

And so I wasn't surprised that when I sent that blog out to my email list, a few people unsubscribed.

And well done them. If you’re not ready, you’re not ready.

But I wanted to say if you’re still here reading me, then GREAT.

You may not know how to choose for your own happiness, but you are clearly willing to find out.

Rare indeed is that.

All you have to do now is opt in here and join the club:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

OK?

Good. Go well and keep the Peace!

Arjuna

- PS.

If you join, the unsubscribe is always at the bottom of my emails.

I never want to feel like a guest who has stayed too long …

So if you really have got this all sorted, you probably don’t need to hear from me.

No worries at all. I wish you luck. -

I'm Terrified

Scariest thing in my life? Turning into my father.

I’m not even a dad yet and I open my mouth and out comes my dad’s words.

What happened to ME??!

He’s a great man, really a great dad, and as a young fella I idolised him.

Your kids?

Are just the same.

They want to be just like you.

They copy everything you do.

Everything.

Everything you say, every facial expression, every single thing.

Had a friend sit down at his computer and his girl came with her plastic kids laptop and sat down beside him.

She opened the lid up, put her face in her hands, and made a huge sigh / moan -

You know that sound …

When you can’t be arsed, but you must.

When the weight of the world is on top of your shoulders,

And the drudgery of life is killing you.

At three years old she learnt it straight from him:

“This is life, and it’s a drag”.

Woke him up, straight away.

Think about it for a moment -

If you don’t change yourself and you don’t care then that’s fine.

But your kids are going to end up just like you.

They’ll get stressed at the same things you do,

Blow your top just like you do,

Have the same relationship with work and money as you do,

Be addicted to the phone and spend hours on Facebook just like you do,

Treat their partners just like you do.

They may well get to a point -

Perhaps like you (and me) they’ll realise they are going to do things differently,

But the basic foundation is already there, it’s laid so young.

If you want to do it differently?

Become conscious -

Make aware choices.

Don’t do stuff “just because” …

Meditation will give you that insight,

Simply and easily, with time and practice to be sure,

But it’s the quickest way of turning a light on and seeing what you are doing.

You want to make different, better, freer choices?

Let’s give you a programme, simple and powerful - and then give you all the inspiration you need to get it done:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

And of course - take it easy,

Arjuna -

PS.

In many ways we can’t do things differently from our fathers -

Chances are we still have to bring home the bacon of some sort, with all of the pressure that CAN get picked up with it.

But nonetheless - what I’m talking about is not so much doing different things, but perhaps doing the same things differently.

Do you see?

When Chick Flicks Turn Out To Be Great

Is there a word for that pleasant sense of surprise when you really enjoy a film you had assumed will be absolute rubbish? There should be.

Sumati and I have been going to a lot of films lately -

We figure we won’t get so much of a chance when baby comes.

She really wanted to see “La La Land”

I agreed to go, because I’m a good husband -

But really I just had the idea it would be a chick flick and a musical combined, which is my worst cinematic nightmare.

I’m not a big fan of “girly films”, but I really don’t like musicals.

Just start humming the tune to that song from Frozen and I get all edgy -

(And this is with a daily meditation practice - imagine me without … )

And yet I liked this film.

More than that, I really LOVED it.

Left the cinema humming the theme tune.

What a nice surprise huh?

That should teach me -

Lesson No.1:

Stay innocent.

Don’t prejudge anything.

Have no expectations.

I know those expectations are usually there because of past experience, but be fluid with them.

Don’t hold them tight because you make your world super small -

They mean you don’t allow for change.

I certainly was glad I went along despite my (super low) expectations.

Expectations and assumption nicely dovetail.

It happens so much in life, doesn’t it?

We drag the past into this moment and ASSUME it will be exactly the same.

In relationship - so often people stop TRULY communicating because of these two things.

They expect and assume, so they never ask.

People assume that their relationships are solid, but they do little make SURE they are.

They don’t do the work to keep building the love up, least of all just to keep it alive, firing, exciting.

Relationships become “transactional” -

As in “don’t forget to get the milk”, or “can you pick up the kids?”

Busy lives mean relationships get taken for granted, the nurturing gets forgotten.

Don’t do this!!

It leads to awful results.

And so often you least expect it when they sit down and have “that” talk with you.

Because you’re so unaware.

Where does meditation come into all of this?

See - meditation gives you the awareness of your patterns and habits.

It makes you more loving and attentive.

It gives you perspective to see what you want to prioritise, and the headspace to follow through.

Alright?

I can give you exactly what you need to meditate like a champion,

And have the greatest relationship you have ever had,

(I’m know this because I’ve gone from uselessly unaware in relationships, FULL of expectation and assumption, to living the best relationship I’ve ever had, right now)

Opt in here:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Go well, keep the peace! Arjuna

PS.

I’m talking about ANY relationship.

With your kids, at work, with your team mates, the shop keeper

Every relationship you value needs you FULLY in it.

Trigger Happy?

A while back my meditation teacher told me that experiencing peace or pain in my life was my choice. My choice!?

It kind of annoyed me, actually.

I considered that somethings I had control over, and yet other things I did not.

I believed that suffering was going to happen.

It’s part of life, right?

As they say - shit does happen.

So someone telling me it was my choice whether I experienced suffering or not got my back up a little.

It - in a word - triggered something in me.

Who on earth WANTS to suffer and feel pain?

Now I have (gradually) become a fan of the trigger -

That is when someone annoys you enough to fire up a response within you -

Because it can actually show you where you can grow and become independent of the trigger.

Where you can master your own reactions.

And NOT be like a monkey on a chain.

Pulled every which way by every comment and happening,

Getting insulted,

Reacting, throwing tantrums and holding grudges.

Being overwhelmed by stress and events.

Which is the way so many live, unconsciously.

And that’s where my meditation teacher is right.

Being triggered may not be a conscious choice - but it is a choice, nonetheless.

It’s a choice to turn a painful event into ongoing suffering

By thinking far too much about it.

(do you see the difference?)

Seeing that process ^^^ within myself

Becoming aware of previously unconscious triggers …

Means I can do something about them -

And learn to NOT react.

Now - It’s within you to change those reactions and get free of the trigger, the hook.

With a bit of dedication it can be a constant.

How?

I have a plan for you to recognise these triggers and actually get something from them -

It's simple, powerful, rewarding, easy to do even on your worst day.

If you want to get free of suffering and claim your choice, head this way to get started:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Go well! Arjuna

PS.

Happy is the day when you welcome a trigger, do you not think?

Because you see where you can be MORE free …

Wouldn’t that be an interesting (and fun) place to live from?

As in "bring it ALL on!" ... ?

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