What If You Didn’t Have Much Time Left?

I really don’t want to be too serious with this one,

But there’s a chance you might read it that way.

I want this to be an invitation to get more from life, not to be fearful in anyway.

With that proviso, let’s jump in shall we?

It came from a recent conversation with Jo about death and dying and how when she thought about her problems in relation to it ...

She got more free.

And she is bang on.

Carking it, checking out, knocking on heaven’s door, death and dying:

It can be a great giver of perspective of what’s truly important.

You see - when you get stressed what happens?

You lose perspective.

You lose life itself because you’re so busy thinking in small little loops, usually about small little things.

Around and around you think and life passes you by.

Strangely enough an awareness of death can be a giver of life.

It gives you clarity.

It makes you realise that you don’t have the luxury of messing around and entertaining stuff that isn’t helpful to you.

It makes you realise that you have to squeeze everything you want from life -

And not wait for conditions to be perfect.

And not wait for your happiness to be given to you.

That in the face of death, the simple things of life are so fulfilling.

That you can’t make your plans for the future or regret for the past more important than this moment,

Simply because your moments aren’t going to go on forever.

That fighting and struggling is one way of getting through life,

But getting present means you can flow and weave and dance even past the barriers and the sharp spiky bits.

It means your mind loses it's veritable death grip on you.

And why not?

It is Easter - rebirth, living again.

Giving yourself a chance to go once again, no matter what just happened.

The secret to mastery of life and death, over the negativity of your mind, lies in being present.

In this presence and awareness you can go for more, and not entertain a fear of less.

Alright?

Become truly Sane.

Seize the day and all that, have a wonderful weekend with all the adventures you may have planned.

Keep the peace! Arjuna

PS. This might just be one of the best paths I have ever embarked upon:

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Willing To Go Through Hell? (you’re doing it all wrong)

“You willing to go through hell to get what you want?” “You ready to bleed for this?!”

Really?

I’m not interested.

How about you?

I see it all the time around and about,

(In fact I used to be a little like that myself - to be honest)

A kind of level of extreme, head first, no prisoners approach to …

Well, many different things …

Weight loss, fitness, business, and even good old mastery of one’s mind.

You know, because I've tried it I can say with 100% authority and experience:

It just doesn’t work.

It’s fine if you’re that kind of gung ho “smash it” hulk personality … or you have the steely discipline of a super ninja robot,

But even then it wears out.

Because it’s harsh.

And harshness isn’t fun, nor rewarding.

(unless you’re hardwired for some masochism, I guess …?)

And if it isn’t fun or rewarding you just aren’t going to do it on a long term.

You’re not going to make it part of your life.

Therefore there's no transformation.

But the fact is you don't need to anyway.

Here’s the thing when it comes to mastering your mind.

Conquering physical challenges is one thing, i.e. making friends with discomfort.

Being able to direct your focus, ignoring certain thought patterns and choosing others is completely different.

There’s not a lot of cross over there.

There isn’t.

So many people think mastering their minds lays in mastering physical discomfort.

When I tried this approach I found I was so focussed on the physical I couldn’t move beyond it.

I couldn't get to deeper levels of calm and centredness and joy and inner presence.

There was just relief and gratitude that I’d finished being "disciplined".

OK?

So the question isn’t “are you prepared to bleed” to overcome the whiney, negative, anxious, reactive part of yourself …

NOT: "are you prepared to go through hell to get to heaven?",

But are you prepared to go through heaven to get to even greater levels of heaven?

Are you prepared to make it supremely easy, and in fact joyful?

If so?

You’ll like our approach a lot:

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PS If you’re not yet sure if you can make it simple and easy and joyful?

Why not let the reins loose just a little?

Just to say you’ve tried it …

Put a smile on your dial, be a touch gentle with yourself?

You can always go back if it doesn’t work.

What If You Just Quit The Internet?

Just got internet supplied to our new house. Look who's back! Wifi’s back!

It’s taken since January - at least 3 whole months of being without the wide world web in the house.

I’m ecstatic.

Overjoyed.

Thrilled even.

There is so much that the internet can give me - 

Kayaking videos

Music

Fail Army

Facebook

Googling “is my baby's poo supposed to look like that?”

You know - cool stuff!

Sumati’s mood has improved considerably too. Heh heh.

Technology is a joy -

But it can be a curse, right?

Witness the walking dead -

The zombie apocalypse of former humans now brain dead,

Endlessly scrolling through their mobile phones,

Ignoring all peoples, all traffic, everything around them,

Relationships dying as they forget how to converse with a live person.

That fine art of asking interesting questions, telling interesting stories, listening - really listening.

So often people will say:

“Detox! Get rid of it all”

And talk about the simplicity of a life without technology, a life without constant updates, of such contact-ability.

Getting away from it all -

It’s a nice idea.

But throwing it ALL away is never the answer.

It’s realising that it’s not about the phone or the computer or the TV or being constantly in demand,

It’s about how YOU use all of that.

Your mobile phone can be a power of good, if you’re aware.

My personal rule for mobile phones?

If there’s someone else in the room - and it’s not a waiting room or a bus stop room,

Get off my phone.

Talk, practice the art of conversation.

And it is an art.

You don’t do it, it dies.

Never a mobile phone in bed.

Great time for some “connecting” of at least one variety …

That is a wonderful way of making sure my relationship stays alive and vibrant and close.

You see, all of this is a choice.

Your whole life is a choice.

You may not realise where your choice lies, exactly - but just seeing that you play a role in all of it is a huge step forward.

When you do want more choice, you might be interested in this:

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Arjuna

Go Easy On Yourself

I just spent a wonderful day with a group down in Worcester. Beautiful location with awesome, inspiring ladies -

A group of Super Mums,

(and they were - they had capes and all, I swear!)

All wanting to be better.

To be more fun, more flexible and fluid, more productive in their lives.

Don’t we all?

(Hope so if you’re reading this!)

It became apparent that in the pursuit of being better we can be pretty hard on ourselves.

You know?

And sometimes you know you could do better.

You know you let yourself down. Maybe someone else too.

And reacted, speaking angrily, or ditched your fitness regime or diet or whatever.

But - it’s no deal, honestly.

Just get up and go again when you’re ready.

Yelling at yourself, beating yourself up, calling yourself an idiot?

I know that inner voice ^^^

Mine was particularly nasty.

It does you no good at all.

Does it?

Give yourself a break.

High expectations and goals are wonderful -

But realise it’s going to take time and persistence to wear down some habits.

They're just old patterns. It's the old you, the one you're leaving behind.

No deal,

Just don’t stop.

Therefore getting better is not so much about talent or skill or even motivation.

It’s about gentle persistence that gets there because it’s unstoppable.

No rush, no pressure to achieve, just a certain will to do what you can do today to get there.

Today is a write off?

Not a problem.

Leave it.

Go again tomorrow.

No one, no one at all does anything full on, all the time.

Some people would like you to believe they do -

But they don’t, simply because they can’t.

Slow and steady gets there.

Getting up again does it.

Putting it down to learning - not failure, not wrong again - will make it so enjoyable and simple you cannot NOT get there.

OK?

Keep on.

You got this.

Keep the peace! Arjuna

PS.

Oh - almost forgot!

If you want a beautifully simple and fun way of retraining your brain away from harshness and self-violence,

This could be just the thing you’ve been looking for:

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Get More Time And More Done, With Time For A Cuppa Too

You have a busy life right? Juggling a family, a job, a career or business maybe, then there’s your fitness and fun times too …

It’s full on, I now know how much it is with this little 4 week bubba we got.

There’s not a lot of time to spare.

How do you get more time in your day?

This is what I know:

Time all depends on your mental and emotional state.

When you’re stressed and overwhelmed, time flies.

Frazzled and frantic? Everything speeds up.

You try to do more at the same time and time gets even faster.

Yet if you slow down and get really present,

If you protect your peace -

You get breathing space.

Time to consider and space to choose how you want to act,

Instead of reacting blindly.

You have the same amount of things to do -

But your internal clock is slower.

It’s the oddest thing -

If you want more time in your day, take time to close your eyes.

Weird huh?

Seems like the last thing you should do, because, well you have to hustle, you got things to do - right?

Yet taking time to get calm and clear and to recharge means you get more time.

You do more with less.

Awesome that is. Magic, even.

Prioritise your peace, defend it from stress and freneticism -

And you flow through life so smooth, so gracefully it’s a wonder.

Maintain that inner clock and the outer clock changes.

But you won’t know exactly how much until you do it, alright?

So get cracking.

If you'd like some sweet tools that make getting into a calm, clear, focussed and fun headspace simple?

Join us here:

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PS.

I know this will annoy some of you.

It will -

You'll be thinking, "he knows nothing about my life".

And you're right, I don't.

But ask yourself - do you enjoy being stressed and snappy and agitated?

I know all about that ^^^

I know all about the (false) belief that nothing can change until the situations and the circumstances and the people in my life change.

YET: What if it could?

Time to check out of the Matrix:

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Avoiding Petty Stuff That Creates Havoc

Baby names - what a nightmare. Baby is 4 weeks old and she has no moniker.

Well, she has plenty of nicknames:

Missy, Shrimpy, Monkey Bum …

But nothing official.

Trouble is I suggest something and Sumati recoils in horror (as is her manner when I come up with a really good idea)

It’s apparent I’ve suggested something on par with “Adolf” or “Trumpina” or “Wartface” or some such.

Sumati suggests something and I politely tell her what it rhymes with -

Because my brain works like that,

And she, again, recoils in horror telling me that no one in their right mind will think of that, and why did she marry me anyway?

Except I did, and I bet someone else will, and she said yes to my proposal so it’s all far too late (nyah a ha!!)

So I’ve kind of stopped suggesting names.

The lesson behind all of this?

Sometimes you just have to give up.

Especially in relationships, you know?

I see so many people fighting over nothing,

Over wanting to prove their point really.

And yet in wanting to be right,

Happiness and harmony gets chucked out the window,

You end up arguing so much you forget why you liked the person in the beginning anyway.

Sure, you pick your battles.

But when you start prioritising your peace you realise your “I must be right on this one particular point” really is a very small list indeed.

When you're at peace your significant others are at peace too -

So it’s not a selfish thing at all,

Though some people think so:

“I’m getting stressed because I want you to have the best life”

Kids and partner, dogs and goldfish,

They actually all want you to be happy and at peace.

It enables them a point of reference in this sometimes crazy, chaotic world.

An anchor of stability.

An oasis of calm, and love, and good humour.

So they can remember theirs.

Want that?

It’s a skill - a skill you can develop.

Here’s the way to get “peace fit”:

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PS.

Imagine your partner and/or family, how would life be if they were all at peace.

Wouldn’t that be fun?

Wouldn’t that be smooth and drama free?

Yes indeedy.

Now you can’t make your loved ones like that, but you protecting your peace is the biggest thing you can do to help them get that.

Actions speak louder than words.

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Protect What Is Most Valuable To You

What is the most crucial and valuable thing you possess?

Is it your car? Your house? Your TV?

Perhaps if you’re thinking deeper you might go for your financial security? Your family? Your partner?

How about your health? Your reputation?

Have a ponder - because when you get to the end of your life you want to make sure you made it a priority.

And if you don’t know,

You won’t have kept it important,

And you won’t have filled your life with it.

Here’s what I say is THE most important thing to you,

The most precious and crucial and valuable thing that you possess:

Your peace.

Your levels of calm, of focus, of clarity, of perspective, of happiness and fulfilment.

Why?

Because that is your core, your foundation, your stability, your anchor.

When life gets busy, when you’re faced with challenges, when you’re chasing goals and dreams -

The one thing that will keep you on an even keel -

That will stop you losing your mind -

Blowing up with stress and overwhelm and “I can’t do this” negativity -

Maintaining a clear perspective and a positive attitude -

Being filled with calm and contentment, no matter how things appear to be unfolding,

Able to act freely and not react wildly and blindly -

Is your peace.

Thing is you don’t know how crucial it is. You don’t really appreciate how valuable it is.

You always delay it.

Putting it last.

Seeking it after the current situation has blown over.

And so you never get off the rollercoaster of life.

Swinging wildly, like, as they say down under - a dunny door in a storm

(outside toilet for those not understanding the parlance).

Get peace first, prioritise it.

Protect it -

It is the most valuable thing you possess.

Everything good and creative comes from it.

All of life gets easier and more effective and definitely more enjoyable when you do.

I actually got so excited about this, I made a little Facebook live video you might like:

https://business.facebook.com/MrArjunaIshaya/videos/1442261985816910/

Simple as, so simple it’s not funny.

Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

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PPS.

If you’ve sat the course before, remember it’s absolutely free to repeat it as many times as you like.

Hit reply and I’ll send you the details -

Be great to see you again!

Apple’s Chief Designer Is Stupid

He said so himself - Sir Jonathan Ive - The guy that was responsible for designing all that slick Apple stuff said he thought he was stupid.

Watching an interview with him - he said his stupidity was the turning point in his career, and Apple’s development.

You see - when he tried to use old computers and technology back in the day, they never worked how he thought they should.

They didn’t make sense - they didn’t have a simple flow to them, they weren’t intuitive or enjoyable to use …

BUT he just assumed he was too stupid to use them.

“Bing” went the lightbulb.

In his moment of illumination Sir Jon realised it was the same with everyone who tried to use one of these computers - “I’m too stupid to get it”

And yet:

He also realised it wasn’t the users but the design.

The designers did not “get” the humans that were to use this tech, therefore missing a critical piece of the puzzle.

Sir Jon cracks on to a basic design principle (“who is going to use it and how do they want to use it?”) and Apple becomes known for its easy to use, intuitive, real people friendly gadgets -

That today means tons of people use them, and whats more: love to use them.

Now - segue to meditation and mindfulness practices.

Some of the books I’ve read and people I’ve heard talking about meditation are so complicated I just used to assume they were spouting some arcane and detailed wisdom,

And I was just too stupid to understand such information.

Turns out - like with Sir Jon - making it complicated is just another word for not really understanding your subject.

The truth is that gaining mastery of your mind and your habitual patterns is really simple, it is.

It needs to be because the truth of who you are is not very far away.

Remember how you are in your great moments?

You just need a method to remind you how to be that, now.

That’s it.

You need gain nothing.

Seriously.

You need give up nothing, learn no complicated knowledge,

Because it’s all about the experience, nothing else matters.

It doesn’t need to take very much time either,

And layers of complication and mysticism just serves to obscure you actually remembering.

So if you come across something you don’t understand, that seems so complicated in this field of meditation and mindfulness?

You’re not stupid.

It’s likely the person spouting such stuff doesn’t really know what they’re talking about.

They’re the ones that don’t understand.

OK?

A method or a tool to remember that state of being when you are the best version of yourself needs to be simple,

Because that return to your Self is simple.

It’s so close, closer than your heart beat even.

And it can be so enjoyable to return and remember:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

This is the ONLY time I’m going to say it’s them and not you, alright?

If you don’t understand, GRILL them until you get an answer you do understand.

Simple, simple, simple. Keep it simple.

Time Travelling - Your Super Power

I’ve got ten minutes free from baby duties. Who would have thought that a little being could take up so much time and attention?

Not me, not me at all.

I have no idea what I used to fill my time with - if you’re a parent you know exactly what I mean.

All good though -

Since I have 9 minutes left, I just have to be more efficient.

Flexible helps too, right?

Who knows what’s going to happen!

These are the super powers of a parent - being efficient, flexible, patient.

Oh - and having a good sense of humour.

All absolutely crucial "internal" super power skills - and skills they are.

You CAN develop more of them.

Sometimes I ask people if they could have a super power, what would it be?

A big chunk of people say time travel.

Simply because you only get wise when you experience something.

Wisdom comes from hindsight -

On comes the lightbulb after you've crashed around the room in the dark, smashing a few things ...

You live it THEN you realise.

Occasionally you have to experience something time and time again before the light comes on or your eyes are opened -

(Pick whatever metaphor you like best)

And that’s my hope for my life, that I only have to live through something once to get it …

Rather than having wisdom smack my head against reality a few times before I finally wake up, you know?

But:

Because of this wisdom coming best through experience and hindsight there is the door for sneaky old regret to come in ...

And take over.

Which it does.

A flash of insight, and then -

“I’ve been a fool. I wish I could travel back in time and do that again”.

Trouble is:

You can’t.

The past is done - you can celebrate it, learn from it, apologise for it …

Yet as hard as you try in your own mind, you can never, ever relive and redo it.

That’s where the super power quality of your headspace and mindset comes in.

There's a type of calm, present happiness that means you set yourself free from the things that aren't possible.

You get an appreciation that, actually, time travel only happens in your head - and therefore is a huge waste of time and emotion, right up there with regret.

So you put an end to regret and endless wishing you could do it again -

Instead getting wise and doing something constructive with the time you DO have.

But also it's a two-for-one type deal.

This skill means you get the ability to react unwisely less and less.

You get the space and time to consider what you’d like to say or do BEFORE you snap and say or do something a little less than what would you like.

Wouldn’t that be nice?

Wouldn't that come in handy and make your life so much smoother - and enjoyable?

Why, yes - yes indeed, it would.

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well,

Arjuna

PS.

Any questions? Fire away if you do.

PPS.

Stay here!

As in this precise moment in time.

Don’t go anywhere.

This is the one moment you have to do anything with.

And -

You’ll soon realise that the experience of this moment is so much greater than the thought of another.

Not So Humble Now, Huh?

You want to live a good life, perhaps even a great one? A life, as it is said, that is worth living.

So that when you get to the end of it -

(and who really knows when that might be?)

You have zero regrets.

You wasted not a single moment.

You were courageous and good and compassionate and adventurous and did your best to live as fully as possible.

Seeking even more enjoyment of each and every moment.

In this, you’ve realised a thing or two -

One of those is that you choose your response to life.

You can’t always change the events, but you can choose your responses.

Those responses mean you can freely choose your actions and your words - and therefore get the results you want.

It’s not anyone else who holds you back, but rather your own fears, worries, doubts, beliefs and limitations.

Learning to engage life fully thus involves engaging a different relationship with your thoughts and feelings.

Now-

In all of this the greatest thing you can do for yourself is develop a modicum of humility.

Because you don’t know all the answers, and you will mess stuff up.

If you’re like me, you’ll start off believing that you do know, and you won’t mess up.

But you will.

Ha - in fact this path involves getting comfortable with making mistakes.

If anything this universe will show you where you can be more humble -

And yet not retreat into inaction, not hide from doing things …

But taking the attitude of “how can I do better next time?”

Humility is an awesome trait to possess.

Because it means you are open to constantly learn.

You’re not seeking perfection.

Perfection is a waste of time compared with being better - it’s a glass ceiling.

It’s right and it’s wrong, there’s no growth.

What could be better than constant expansion of your internal and external universe?

Nothing that I can think of.

Just being willing to look at yourself and see where you can do better takes humility.

That’s why not many people do it.

It’s easier on the ego to look and blame everyone else.

So if you’re willing to look and do something about what you see?

Good on you. Good on you.

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

Go gentle on yourself when you’re looking at yourself.

It’s so easy to be pretty harsh and self-critical.

Don’t be harsh:

Just be willing to do your best to do things better next time.

The Absurdity Of Beating A Mind To Train It

I was taking a stroll down by the river with my ladiez … Sun was shining, the river was glistening, birds a chirping.

A perfectly lovely scene.

I turn the corner where upon we witness a man yelling and thrashing his dog to get it to behave.

Curious behaviour I thought.

But behaviour that is common nonetheless - is it not?

When someone (or some dog) doesn’t do what you want them to do, simply yell louder and effect violence.

Not working? Simply shout louder.

You may chuckle, but chances are you do that with yourself.

You get violent and yell and shout at yourself when you do something wrong, when you don't "behave"…

You try and beat your own mind to get it to stop being so reactive or anxious or negative or worried.

And then you wonder why your head never behaves in the way you want it to.

If you think you don’t do this?

Take an honest look at your self-dialogue.

For real - no one would even talk to an animal the way they talk to themselves.

I know this because I’ve tried that route of self-training.

I know that pattern of internal talk,

Of trying to gain mastery of my mind by thrashing and yelling and viciousness.

Didn’t work, at all.

If you’ve ever seen a dog that has been beaten, it doesn’t want to come close to you.

Because it’s worried it’ll get another beating.

Witness a dog that is rewarded for good behaviour though …

It WANTS to do what you want it to.

It wants to return and sit and await orders.

It doesn’t run off at the slightest hint of interest some where else.

You can teach it to do just about anything you want it to.

The answer for you in all of this?

In learning to master your mind and therefore gain mastery over your words and deeds, stop the internal violence.

Mind (and dog) training needs reward not beatings.

It's time to put down the whip.

How do you reward your mind for good behaviour?

Head this way and we'll get you started:

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Arjuna

PS.

Another great thing you need in mind training?

Patience.

Just like training your dog - consistency is everything.

With time and with practice, and reward, you’ll get there.

Promise.

How Exactly Do YOU Want To Live?

There are so many ideas and theories about how to live a good life. Am I right?

Just a casual flick through the interweb will give you a plethora of lifestyle tweaks and tips about what you need to do to be stronger, faster, smoother, slicker, smarter with better sleep and hair that everyone wants.

Diet alone is a minefield:

If you eat this thing you will lose fat and gain brain cells.

Carbs are the enemy. Animal fats are worse. Gluten is Satan.

Coffee will kill you, but if you add coconut oil it becomes nectar.

You know?

When did life get so complicated? I used to be looking for someone to hand me a document that told me how to live a great, stress free, peaceful life - I read all the stuff in search of it.

In order to be the master of my mind and experience unwavering calm in the face of adversity I tried many many things.

I was a vegan, I ditched coffee and alcohol. I stopped eating onion and garlic (inflames mental and emotional activity - apparently).

I got up at stupid o’clock to do yoga and breathing - because that was the time before dawn which was “best” for evolution, according to someone who sounded convinced.

I sat on the floor with folded legs and a ramrod straight back, being “equanimous” - which is Buddhist speak for sitting on a sharp spike and pretending not to care.

What for?

All so I could lose stress and get calm and content and focussed - and happy?

I squeezed myself in such a box - someone else’s box of what was right.

Even though it was hard work I was prepared to do it too - I felt the rewards were such that I could keep it up.

What a joke.

Just because some guru says it’s a good idea, doesn’t mean it’s a good idea for you.

The fact is so many of these gurus are spouting whatever “wisdom” they hear from every other guru.

It all goes round in circles and has little truth in what actually works.

Social media has just accelerated this to an absurd degree.

Experimenting is good, but see the results, for real.

All I got from was increasingly serious and withdrawn, less and less happy.

When I learnt the Ishayas’ Ascension meditation they threw the rule book out the window.

And I was never happier.

Because it finally allowed me to set myself free from expert advice.

They taught me the essentials -

Just the tools that I needed to master my mind and nothing else.

I asked them: “What do I do next? How do I live my life is the best way?”

They laughed:

“How do YOU want to live?”

Set free indeed.

Free to really see what really works for me, to see what is rubbish, and what is sensible advice.

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well, Arjuna

PS.

The meditation I tried before I learnt the Ishayas’ Ascension was a bit boring, quite painful, and really hard work.

I felt more grateful for stopping than anything I did during.

No wonder so many people run a mile.

It has to be simple, and easy, and yet powerful to do exactly what you want it to:

Which is allow you to live as the best version of yourself, and not grumpy, exhausted and frazzled.

Let me tell you more about meditation and mindset though:

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Screaming Babies Incoming At 3 O’clock

Having a three week old baby has shown me something, very very useful. She’s the perfect thing to develop more mastery of my own mind and reactions -

Getting super good at how to choose my response to challenge, and all with a smile - even at 3am.

Let me tell you:

Challenge is part of life.

How YOU deal with it is everything to your results and how much fun you have.

People talk about how sweet and innocent the little baby is,

And she is pretty darn cute, most of the time (she came from after all - natch!)

But she’s also got a will of iron.

She wants something?

She’ll be very loud until she gets it.

(Unfortunately the diagnostic panel isn’t working so it can take some time to work out what that is)

There is no end of possible challenge here.

Avoidance isn't an option in life. You can’t run - you can’t hide.

I can’t ditch this baby.

I can’t run to a cave.

Well, I could, but the truth is no matter where you go you’ll find something you disagree with.

A dank cave with nothing but leaves and roots to chew on?

That’ll get old quick.

The best way, the most productive way, is to learn how to deal with stuff you don’t like.

And this is where you have an advantage -

If you’re reading this, you’re interested in doing things better.

Better is good.

You see - you can blame and point the finger all you like …

“It’s the baby’s fault I’m stressed!”

“It’s the world’s fault I’m stressed!”

Or you can look at yourself and see what you can do differently.

A big difference.

One is weak. One will keep you in a cycle of complaining and blaming and doing nothing but getting stressed.

The other is strong.

You’re looking at yourself and seeing how you can free yourself from the chains of reaction.

You know there is the event: “Baby crying at 3am!”

And there is your reaction to the event: “mrgggghhh - wtf?!”

The event you have little control over -

The reaction?

All the control in the world.

One you can change, one you can’t.

If you’re smart, and you are - you’ll work on the things you can change.

You’ll realise that getting stressed and overwhelmed is not a good option.

But mastery of yourself?

An excellent one.

It can be done - it takes patience and consistency.

And it takes humility - a willingness to look at yourself.

Not many people have that ^^^

It also takes a tool that means you can ignore certain thoughts and reactions,

And choose to focus on thoughts that you do want to grow.

Head here to get such a “tool”:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

Baby is an amazing teacher of choosing to be flexible.

Amazing.

I have a plan, she fills her nappy.

Hah - dirty nappies come first, no matter what I want to do.

Peace Isn’t A Dirty Word

I keep forgetting people gets all confused about peace.I shouldn't, but I do.

They get it all twisted -

So I’m here to add a little clarity for you.

It’s commonly confused that peace means giving up, surrendering, checking out, renouncing the world, giving up your life goals.

Peace is seen as the opposite to productivity and doing and achieving.

It is slacking and under-achieving. Living in a dream world. Tree hugging and a waste of space.

And such and so forth.

Therefore many right thinking people will spit at the word as if it was dirty.

Put like that? Rightly so.

Who would give up all the joys of the world for something as seemingly intangible and un-useful as peace?

Well, them “monks in a cave” are ALL to blame.

There's this idea you have to retire from the world to find lasting peace -

You have to choose ONE:

Do you want peace OR getting what you want from the world?

Which is madness to me, it’s totally wrong.

But it explains everything when you watch people getting so wound up trying to get what they want from life.

The truth is - you NEED peace to achieve your goals.

No matter how many people think and do otherwise:

Stress is not useful to you getting stuff done.

It’s not even a necessary side effect.

^^^

A certain level of excitement yes; stress and overwhelm no.

You need give up nothing!

Nothing I tell you. Except for limitation.

Peace isn't giving up your goals.

It’s having the calm, the presence of mind and the focus to get them quickly.

And not giving in to stress and fear and struggle.

It’s the only sane way to live:

A foot in both camps, as it were.

Rock solid calm and contentment with great clarity, motivation and energy.

Anything less is a life half lived.

Interested? Head this way:

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Go well,

Arjuna -

PS.

What if?

What if you could have it all?

And simply too?

Wouldn’t that be nice?

Wouldn't that be a life worth living?

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The Sunny Side Of The Train

I’m writing to you as I sit on the sunny side of the train, heading into Kent. I have a course on over the next few days, but the most crucial - and enjoyable - part of this is the feeling of sun on my face.

Sitting here, doing nothing, nothing to do, just to sit.

Love that.

I look around at my fellow travellers and hope they are enjoying themselves as much as I am.

Enjoying life is so simple; WHEN you know how.

It’s about choice - where you choose to place your attention.

You can stay wrapped up in what's in your head, perhaps go over a problem or what you might have to do later on …

Or you can broaden your horizons, step beyond the mind and really be in this moment - really absorb yourself in it.

If you do this you will find that you miss out on so much of your life by overthinking.

Your life passing by, and all because you're stuck in your head.

Someone once said the whole purpose of life is to be happy, and yet there are so many people looking for happiness by anticipating and solving a problem that isn't here, that may never actually happen.

Get present and you'll find happiness:

Happiness and calm and contentment and fulfilment and aliveness that is uncaused; and just because you showed up to the one place happiness is.

Right here.

Think about it - the greatest moments of your life?

You were totally absorbed in the moment, in what was in front of you.

Stress wasn't managed for you to get to this place, problems weren’t solved -

You dropped everything.

You forgot all about your problems, so immersed were you in the one place where your life is: here and now.

If you want to fill your moments with greatness, you can.

It is indeed possible to live this way, permanently.

Get present, get alive to now - that is the answer. It is the journey and it is the destination.

Do it and you will see so clearly the only time you have a problem is when you leave this moment and start thinking.

Problems are always past and future. Now contains no struggle; not if you fully give yourself to it.

So finding full effectiveness and enjoyment in life - whatever your life may contain - is all about now.

And now.

And now.

Practice that.

I'd learn the Ishayas' Ascension. Honestly - It makes the return so simple. And it's incredibly powerful in that it removes your habits that distract you from now quickly and effortlessly.

Here's how to find out more:

https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/ Go well!

Arjuna

PS.

All of life begins within you.

Everything you are looking for starts right here -

Tap into that and everything gets easier.

And way more fun.

How To Rule Your World

How much time do you think really productive and creative people spend wasting time, just re-thinking and re-planning and re-analysing? When you want to rule your world you don’t have a lot of time to do that, do you?

It’s a kind of ruthlessness that I really admire, and I’ve been talking a little about of late.

Get a plan, get in, get it done, get out.

Don’t worry too much about what might or might not happen,

Don’t worry about what other people think,

Just give it a whirl and see how it goes.

Adjust, go again, and again.

The greatest failure in life in many ways is just not trying.

Or giving up after doing it once.

The mind has a million ways of slowing and even stopping you -

Of over-complicating EVERYTHING.

The greatest thing you can do is learn not to let it.

How would your life be if you were able to do just ONE of those things you've been meaning to do?

How much easier would it be to do the next thing?

(Answer - much easier!)

Being more ruthless is a skill I definitely am looking at having more of in my life.

Now, I’m not really interesting in ruling THE world, just helping a few more people.

It’s just that if I’m left to my habits of being and doing, I’m very capable of sitting around and letting time just go by.

I'm doing way better than I was - but it's still on my list of things to keep doing.

Now - When I talk about ruthlessness is not about squashing anyone or becoming a megalomaniac,

Or losing your sense of calm and fun in the process.

It’s simply knowing I want to do something, and not letting my bad habits get in the way.

It’s being gently ruthless with myself to get more, but not losing myself in the busy-ness.

So I’m not talking about doing anything you don’t want to do -

I’m talking about making sure YOU do exactly the things YOU do indeed want to do.

And not let time slip by.

Which is one of the elderly’s greatest regrets.

>>> That they didn’t do those things they really wanted to do.

If this is something you’re REALLY interested in?

I can’t tell you how much better, faster, easier, funner a tool like the Ishayas’ Ascension makes being more “ruthless” while having more enjoyment.

(How is that even possible? I don't know - but it is)

It is a simple, simple way to release the internal handbrake, the procrastinator, the "waiting for the perfect moment"-er.

So anyway, do what you want with this information.

If you're interested in knowing more about meditation and mindfulness and all this stuff, then head this way and I'll help you out:

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Go well - keep the peace!

Arjuna

PS.

So many people think meditation means hiding away from the world.

It's not -

It gives you the ability to be more in every part of your life.

Every single part.

Good stuff it is.

How To Be Mega Efficient

It’s become increasingly apparent to me, In fact more than ever with the little froglet,

That I don’t have any time to waste on unconscious frivolities.

Time - even and especially when I want to spend it on conscious frivolities, is short.

Someone wise once said:

“Don’t manage your time, manage your attention”

Which I believe is perfect - simply because time is not constant.

As what Einstein was on about - time is relative.

Relative to you, to what you’re doing, to how much fun you’re having.

Relative to your individual perception. (Which is a whole other fascinating conversation)

Right?

Time flies, time fills the space available, time just depends.

Here’s the thing I noticed about attention, and why it's so important:

I used to give so much of my attention to thinking about any other moment EXCEPT for the one in front of me.

I was rarely present,

I was in a dreamworld of past events and possible futures.

I would have conversations with my clients and co-workers in the car on the way to work.

I would be at work, thinking about being at home.

I would be at home, thinking about being at work.

Rarely did I ever manage to be present, right here, right now.

Developing the skill - perhaps you might call it the mental strength or flexibility - of managing my attention became important, crucial even.

And what I realise now more than ever is that when you are present you can be more efficient.

(and creative too - it’s not stifled by overthinking and rigid plans).

When you are present and attentive to this moment, you can meet the need of this moment.

What it ACTUALLY requires, not what you think it requires, or should.

You get in, get whatever needs done, you drop it.

Minimal effort, minimal mental strain, just done.

The difficulty only occurs when I think too much about it.

Second guessing, worrying, future surfing, all that stuff …

Am I right?

This goes for every field of human endeavour.

Business, being in my kayak, changing a nappy, planning a trip, conversating with Sumati about dinner.

Keep it simple.

Learn to manage your attention and everything gets simpler.

See those habits where you WANT to go over and rehash and rehearse and all that mental cognitation (made that word up)

… And return to this moment, right here.

Get good at that and you’ll do more with more effortlessness and more fun.

You’ll also stay cool, calm and collected, connected to your centre.

Which is a lovely way to live.

Not only lovely - it’s the only SANE way to live.

You want that?

Here’s how to get the tools to be that:

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Arjuna

PS.

Sanity is a trait sadly lacking in our lives, don’t you think?

Not due to people not wanting it - but for me at least - not knowing HOW to get it.

I mean if you want to get fit, you go get a personal trainer or strap some running shoes to your feet.

If you want to get really and truly wide eyed alive and sane, how do you even start?

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Midlife Crisis? Me?

I’m exhausted. Poor me.

Seems like every part of my body aches.

The local river has been going nuts you see,

And I’ve been on it, surfing my head off.

In my new, very sporty kayak.

My old one is like a bus compared to this model.

So I’m well chuffed.

Sumati calls it a midlife crisis,

She is a card, isn’t she?

But we both know it’s really for our daughter -

For when she grows up.

I’m just breaking it in.

I’ve realised being out in nature, specifically on a river, is such an essential part of me.

I can be so content and fulfilled anywhere, anytime -

But kayaking, being out in the hills, it gives me that added sparkle,

That added “YES!” that means carving out some time is worth everything.

It’s a kind of ruthlessness that I really admire in certain people.

That ability to keep balanced, stay alive - “Super Sane” you might call it,

No matter the demands of your life.

To do everything you NEED to do, but also to make time for the things you WANT to do.

How is that done with a family and a job and everything else?

As I was saying - I'm seeing it's done by being ruthless with your time and attention.

Spending it wisely.

Not wasting it.

Being organised, now that is a shock for me.

Also -

Taking the time to rest and recover and gain more …

More recovery, more clarity, more perspective, more good humour.

You need to make sure you have enough energy, enough charge in the battery to do everything.

Because exhaustion and muddled thinking leads to stress and reactions and negativity -

And sitting around on the couch.

On Facebook. Or on the xbox.

(which is fine - IF you’re conscious that is exactly how you want to spend your time)

Now - Ascension is perfect for rest and recovery because even if you can’t sleep -

You can rest, physically and mentally.

It honestly is a life saver with balancing a new baby and all the stuff I want to do too.

I don’t know how people do without it.

Head here and I'll tell you more:

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Go well! Arjuna

PS.

Now - what I’m talking about is about doing stuff that you love, for sure…

But it’s clearer than ever for me with baby and all she needs -

It’s not about WHAT I do, it really is ALL about HOW I do it.

HOW is where everyone has choice.

You want to get that choice, to know it so well.

Makes all the difference in the world.

All the difference.

Interested? Go here and we'll get started: https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Thinking Too Much Will Kill You

Want to die from stress? No thanks - not me.

I'm not being dramatic - stress is the biggest cause of illness and early death in the West.

Everyone gets stressed and overwhelmed at some stage ...

And yet it is TOTALLY avoidable WITHOUT hiding away from the world.

>>> If you realise this one thing I’m about to tell you, that is.

It’s a handy little trick of awareness and mindset that means you can have a LOT of things going on all at once, and never feel strained at all.

No struggle, no overwhelm, no sense of “so much to do I just want to hide away”.

No early death.

Just efficiently dealing with each one to the best of your ability …

And cracking jokes along the way.

Full enjoyment of each and every moment.

Here's what's happens when you get overwhelmed:

You're simply carrying too much in your head.

Your whole to-do list is buzzing around in that tin can of yours, fighting for solutions and attention.

You're trying to anticipate the future already too -

Better get that crystal ball out, huh?

So:

No one can multitask-

It's a myth.

But you'll try to anyway.

When you try and think about numerous things at once,

As well as trying to predict the future,

The result is stress and feeling like you're swamped, sinking, struggling.

No fun. No efficiency.

And that early grave.

Unfortunately you also don’t give your full attention to the one thing that is in front of you.

The one thing you CAN actually do.

So what seems like a good strategy for productivity and responsibility in your life isn't really at all.

It's thinking too much that causes the stress that will kill you.

Interesting huh?

Your head is the source of your stress, not your to do list.

Which is good news:

You can't always to do something about your to do list BUT you can do something about your head.

Train your head to focus on this moment in time, on this thing, and then the next thing.

One thing at a time.

It’s the only sane, efficient solution.

See where your head wants to do everything at once,

Where it’s carrying the next thing -

And drop it.

Return to now.

OK?

I realise this is easy to say and much harder to do, but to make it so simple for you it becomes automatic and natural:

To get freedom from thinking too much and stress, go here:

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PS.

Need anything?

Just ask me

He Gave Me A Kick In The Ar$e

Have you ever met someone who shocked you with what they said? Actually - yes, constantly.

Let me put it another way -

Has anyone ever shocked AND inspired you all at the same time?

Can I tell you a little story?

When I met my meditation teacher he did that.

He gave me a right royal boot up the bum - 

In the best possible sense.

Just an ordinary dude,

An ex-soldier and business man, now teaching the Ishayas’ Ascension.

No mystical guru behaviour,

No making things far too complicated than they need be (unfortunately a common theme in meditation circles)

Just a guy who was incredibly ordinary in all ways except for HOW he did things.

There was something about him - his sense of humour and peace and presence -

I don’t really know how to describe it beyond that I knew he had something I wanted.

He said to me -

“Arjuna - permanent peace, constant and unwavering, no matter what is happening in your life is possible for you”.

I almost fell off my chair.

No one had actually said that to me before.

I wanted that, but didn’t believe it could be possible.

After all, life involved being unhappy, didn’t it?

By it’s very nature life meant struggle and stress and suffering.

Sometimes things are good, sometimes they suck.

And that’s the facts of life, right?

But what if?

What if life could be more than what I was living?

What if stress and self-doubt and struggle could become a memory of how I used to be?

And so I decided to follow the possibility that peace could be an ongoing experience in each and every moment.

Fast forward to today, and I know he was right.

Permanent peace is possible.

For you.

Without giving anything up in your life (except limitation) you can end all stress and struggle.

If that’s what you want.

Now, if I could give you one thing it would be this:

Find out what you want from life.

Make it your priority, make it first in everything you do.

It’s not about hiding from the world - it’s about the full embracing of every part of it.

You also don’t have to give up anything to experience being the best version of yourself.

After all - it’s already there - you just have to remember how to choose for it, how to be it.

Don’t limit yourself in any way.

You find that clear, content, calm core of yourself - every part of your life comes alive.

So many people sell themselves short in terms of their experience of life.

Are you one of them?

If you’d like to know how - get on this course ASAP: https://arjunaishaya.leadpages.co/sane-fb/

Go well, alright?

Arjuna

PS.

Any questions about any of this stuff?

Just hit me up!