Howdy! I’m back after a while on honeymoon on a Greek island.
I did have intentions (small as they were) of writing to you while I was away, but I didn’t.
The great thing about life is you can always start again.
And so I’ll take that reset button and go again.
So: back in action - and amazing what a small break has done for my motivation.
Marriage.
People ask me if it’s different being married, and at first I said nothing had changed.
Then I realised that on a subtle but powerful level something big had indeed changed.
But before I get to that …
Do you know what all your relationships have in common?
Every single one - from your romantic partner to your family to work colleagues to your local shop keeper?
The common denominator in all your relationships is you.
Want a better relationship?
Ask yourself …
“What can I do to give more to this relationship?”
You see, that’s what I realise has changed.
Since being married I realise that now I’m in for life, no matter what comes.
Before there was a sense of it not mattering if the relationship didn’t work out.
There was a back door of "I'll let her work it out, because there’s plenty more fish in the ocean”.
Now I know every interaction counts.
It matters.
There’s a real sense of wanting to make the most of each moment with her.
If there’s a misunderstanding, I want to do what I can do to reach out and come to a level again.
If there’s down time and she wants to talk, I want to put my phone down and be fully present with her - not just nodding “yes dear” as I go for that high score.
Being married I realise even more my role in making the most of my relationships.
It involves awareness of my own triggers, of the intention to give, to make choices where everyone wins.
The Ishayas’ Ascension meditation helps me so much in this.
It gives me the ability to see myself clearer and clearer.
To reset and go again.
It gives the foundation, and the motivation, to live the best life possible.
And the contentment that comes with being fully present, right here in this moment.
If you've learnt, make sure you practice. It asks so little and gives so much.
If you haven't learnt, you're missing out on the one thing that makes all life so sweet.
Why not dive in? You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Hope you have a great day.
Go well - Arjuna